Thursday, February 5, 2009

Try to explain myself

It seems the idea of our family adopting a child or 2 confuses some people. I just wanted to clear a few things up:
- No, we don't have a lot of money, and no, we are not giving you any. You don't have to be Angelina Jolie to adopt kids, thank goodness that isn't a requirement, these kids have a hard enough time having families "find" them.
- Yes, I can have biological children, I have the scar running across my abdomen to prove it, and yes, we do plan to have 1 more biological child, so thanks, but no thanks to the offer to sell me an ovary.
- No, I really don't feel I am doing anything special b/c the reasons people adopt are kinda selfish, the same way when you have a biological child are, you're doing it b/c you want to add to your family, you want to give love, you want to receive it.
- No, I can't fully explain why we want to adopt. That same desire to "reproduce" that some people claim is purely natures way of making sure the human race continues, is actually the same emotional pull I have to adopt, its the only way I can explain it, this is something we are meant to do.
- Yes, I understand there are "risks" with adopting, but there was a risk when I got pregnant with JJ that something could go wrong, which I was fully aware of since I lost a baby before him. But I still got pregnant with him on purpose, and I'll do it again. Life is always about chance and things rarely go the way we plan them to. A child is always a blessing and the only guarantee you have with them is that life will never be boring.
I'm not trying to be facetious, we just seem to run into the same comments over and over. And the ironic thing is, not from anyone who would be reading this blog, I just wanted to get it off my chest, thanks for listening.

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