Thursday Tidbits

I'm behind, the girls in my mom's group brought this up a little while ago, I just looked at it and got the laugh I needed!
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John and I are getting some DJ stuff on the net. So far I started a facebook page, its in the infant stages, but if you're even been around when he DJed or just want updates, you can find him on facebook under DJFlip Mendoza.

And, my tree is still up. It will get packed away this weekend. But snicker at me all you want, I know for a fact there are still others up too LOL.

Thank goodness tomorrow is Friday! I want to sleep in! Then I get to go out for a few with a friend, and the next day scrap with another, and hopefully the next day catch a football game with yet another!

A "good quality" hurts the worse

I'm the type of person I will give you the shirt off my back in a heartbeat. I WANT to do it, the same my mom did. But on that same note, I hurt just like my mom did when I feel unappreciated, or under-valued by those I care about. Right now, as some may know, there have been issues in regards to my Dad. Most know it was rally my mom who raised me. My dad was the type who if I wanted to spend time with him, it was on his territory - watching boxing, football, going fishing, or a walk in the woods. Sheesh, I even gutted a deer with him and that was not because I WANTED to! Now, my mom, we were the best of friends! Shopping each week, trips to see family to parties, talks, movies, card games, etc. She disciplined me and taught me my values. I was jipped when she passed away, and frankly so was JJ. But, because I spent so much time with her, I am like her - I pay for my dad's phone, but he can never call me. I send him candy, books, movies, etc but he can't send me a birthday card. As soon as we get to his house at 6:30 at night, he's out the door to his girlfriend, twice that same night! She got mad because he only went over for 15 minutes the second time so he told me he had to stay later the next time! What about me? I live 16 hours away and only see him a total of 7 days out of the year! And we all knew he was bad with money, so what do we do, John and I both buy him groceries while we are there, and not even a thank you! He can go on 2 cruises this past year, but not once will he come visit me. He will buy his girlfriend things hand over fist (blowing 6 figure!) but he says he won't buy me stuff because we make more he can ever make.
But, the thing about me that makes me want to do so much is the same part that allows me to hurt so much when I don't feel special to him. I'm not asking for anything in return really, just to acknowledge that I am his flesh and blood! I can't stop myself from doing stuff for him, I love him, I am his daughter, I'm supposed to care for him and there's nothing I can do to stop that. But, how in the world can I stop it from hurting me?
We've been home almost a week now. He has not even called to see that we made it home safely, let alone just to say "hi."

Oh, how Texas makes me so happy....

I'm going to get right to the big deal, my brother only has 6 days left in Iraq! I'm so happy he will be getting out soon and will be stateside, in TEXAS! We are already planning our trip out this summer! I can't wait! It will be almost 3 years since I saw Joe, I miss him so much, this trip has me counting down when school lets out with much more enthusiasm than Day has himself! Gotta find some boots since I gave my last pair away, you know what they say, when in Rome.....

Next, much more trivial, is my Cowboys - gotta love the football nights in our house, John was even rooting for them for me tonight, must've worked, they shut out Philly for the Division title! To top it off, JJ told me last night he wants to root for the Cowboys too, what a proud momma that makes me ;) Now, since John said he's given up on his Deadskins, I just need to work on him coming over to the Blue side, as well as helping Day choose the right football team to cheer for.

Happy New Year!

Hope everyone started their New Year out the way they want the year to go! Unfortunately I really hope that's not true, I barely registered my hubby kissing my cheek while I tried to shut out the light with the blanket, thanks all to a mini-migraine. Better now at least.
I'm glad not to make the resolution this year to quit smoking. I'm going to keep my fingers crossed to "keep the quit" instead. Thanks to all those who have helped me with quitting. The support in all aspects of life boosts me up!
So, instead for this year I'm going to resolve to do more calming things to help me not want to smoke. More scrapping (and getting back into the digital side of it) more jewelry for fun (not just because of gift giving times) and I want to get the sewing machine back out and do a little more with it (I already have 2 purses in mind to make out of this awesome material I have.)
I also think all those board games need to go to use, the commercials for family game night need to be tested out. I have great memories from growing up of Monopoly, rummy, and pitch. The video games need a rest - though I do plan on getting Sing Star to annoy John ;)
Figured these resolutions will be easy to keep this year, all fun stuff!

How something sticks with you....

On St Nicholas Day we watched a movie called St Nick & Pete, which I plan on getting so we can watch every year. At the end, James Earl Jones (who I think is 1 of the greatest actors) tells his "grandson" of an African saying that as long as someone speaks your name you never truly die. Being me, of course I cried, I cry at everything it seems, especially this time of year. But for the past 2 weeks that has stuck with me and I will repeat names for as long as I live, and the best I can hope for, is that I am the type of person that after I am gone, my name will still be on the lips of those who surround me!

Smart little man....

JJ has been whining to open the presents under the tree. Don't know how my mom managed to put up with my constant badgering every year! So, my new mantra has been "Well, I want a million dollars and I don't always get what I want." Sometimes I'll even tell him that if he gets me my million I'll give him what he wants. I didn't even add on that last part tonight and he still went in his monopoly game and came running up to me with the play money telling me there was my million dollars.

Makes me wonder sometimes.... we always joke that in our family you have to learn to be a smart-aleck to put up with everyone else. Wonder if its just in the genes.

To have nothing and only think of giving.....

Near where I work is a Wendy's. Sometimes when I go there for lunch there is a gentleman that sits on the side of the back road with a sign "Homeless Vet, Help." It breaks my heart that I can't "save" him but I get him lunch each time I see him sitting there. 1 day this week I happened to have a blanket in the van. I offered it to him after giving him his meal, his answer was he was pretty set that way but he knew someone else who he could give it to who could use it. I told him that would be great and to take care of himself. I was driving back to work, stuffing my face, with tears rolling down. Here's a man who has so little, thankful for what he is given, and still thinking of what HE can do to help others.

Why can't those who are blessed with so much more have half of his selfless nature?

Day 7 - A Week of Thanks (late) and THANKSGIVING

I missed last night's 7th day of Thanks due to "fixing" the computer. So, on that note, I give thanks for the computer & the Internet. With having such a large family spread all over the globe, and friends stretching out just the same, being able to stay in contact and involved in each others lives so easily, often, and cheaply is a blessing!

My original thanks was going to be my gratefulness for those that touched my life but have left. My grandparents (especially both of my Pop-Pops), uncle and aunts (especially my "2nd" dad Uncle Thomas) and of course my mom. To have had them, even if the time was too short, in and of itself is a blessing. They could never be replaced, and the time spent with them, the memories made, will never be forgotten.

I used to love romantic movies, 1 of my old favorites was Hope Floats. There's an old saying, most would not think too significant, but it sticks with me in regards to the love of family and friends MY CUP RUNUTH OVER.

Hope you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

Day 6 - A Week of Thanks

I'm thankful to a home and food on the table. How many others have received the email that says if you have a job, a home, and food, you are better off than 90% or more of the world's population. It may not be up to everyone's standards, but its ours. The only thing I'd like to change is add on a bunch more rooms so we could add on a bunch more to the family!

Day 5 - A Week of Thanks (again, on time!)

I'm thankful for my job! I know how precious that is in this economy! What makes it better is that I enjoy what I do and I adore the people I work with, and work for! It keeps me sane and allows me to put food on the table. I do NOT take that for granted!

Day 4 - A Week of Thanks (today!)

I'm thankful for my friends. I can't believe the great group of women that have surrounded me in the past couple of years, mostly new (treasured) friends and a couple "old" (priceless) friends who popped back into my life, as well as the steadfast mainstays who have stuck by me forever! I don't know what I would've done without you all in so many situations! When my mom passed, my Dad moved, I went back to work, needed to complain about John or others, when I needed questions answered on mothering, or just someone to talk to about nothing. You've all managed to lift my spirits when amazingly there would've been no way for you to even know they needed lifting. You all brought me out of my shell one way or another. I was always the type of person who trusted few, kept only a few people close. I never knew how wonderful it is to have so many people there for me, and how great it is to know you want me to be there for you!

Day 3 - A Week of Thanks 11/21/09

I can't seem to catch up, so guess there will end up being 2 posts today!

So, for Saturday, I'm thankful for my family! The Duggars can try to compete all they want, the Johnson family is bigger (yeah, I know, not by much.) And the Hayghe side is of course full of love and strength as well! I'm so lucky to have been born into such a wealth of love. I've had people say how they had no family to spend the holidays with, which makes me realize the importance of the I have the over-flow I have been blessed with, which I am greatly thankful for! Personalities may not always mesh, hey, it happens with people who are pretty much alike, but we all come back together! Family was stressed to me growing up, NOW I know why, they are the ones going to be there for you. Look how many people who have my back ;)

Day 2 A Week of Thanks 11/20/09

I'm so immensely thankful for my boys! They bring so much joy into my life, even when I want to pull my hair out! There's nothing closer to God than the innocence of a child! If I could, I'd repeat my grandparents and add 18 more! Wish our house was as big as the room in our hearts (hey Steve, wanna add on for us?) I'm never more content than when the house in noisy and in an uproar. Will there ever be a time when I want the house to be quiet? What would I do with myself then? It would have to be incredibly boring to have them gone all the time!
And John, JJ looks more like me, so there ;)

Day 1 - A Weekof Thanks

I'm thankful for my hubby. John puts up with 1 stubborn woman without being a push-over b/c Heaven knows I don't want a wimp! He indulges in just about all of my requests and hobbies and once in awhile is so sweet to surprise me with something I forgot I even asked for. I know I'm lucky to have someone who doesn't just give me a peck hello or goodbye, but actually wraps me in a bear hug. And you know, I think something wrong if I walk by him and he manages not to grab me in 1 way, shape, or form. I know I'm not always a ton of laughs to deal with and I'm quite vocal when I feel he isn't either, but he's managed to stick by me for more than 10 years now, I'll start writing up the award now ;) Love ya!

OMG I SOOO needed a laugh

Many of you already saw my facebook post on being sick of other people lying and hurting those I care about. I fully believe if they spent that same energy on themselves they would find their own happiness and not feel the need to drag others down to their dysfunction. Trying to steal my family's happiness does not give them their own! I will not allow people to try to thwart my efforts to give my family all sense of happiness, safety, and contentedness possible!

And to a point, that means I have to take away their control over me too, I have to set the example and not let them get to me. So, to prove I can still find humor in life no matter what's thrown my way, and to find the pure joy in life by sharing the laughs with my boys, I am officially sticking my tongue out at those idiots.

So, there!
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